Alcohol addiction is a terrible pain for the family. People who drink are the number one cause of domestic violence, financial hardship, and the formation of wrong stereotypes in young children. By constantly watching drinking relatives in the family, children can repeat their fate.
How to convince an alcoholic to stop drinking?
The big problem is that drunks do not recognize the existence of alcohol addiction until the end. For them, alcohol becomes the only joy in life. The feeling of the problems, of the difficulties of life, becomes dull.
It becomes almost impossible to persuade a person to stop drinking. But the stage of pleasant leisure with a glass quickly ends, diseases appear, irreversible changes occur in the cerebral cortex.
growing social problems
- more frequent conflicts in the family;
- there is a change of atmosphere: proven friends move away and alcoholics take their place;
- in a drunken state, a person easily violates the law;
- loss of interest in life, etc.
How to get a loved one to stop drinking alcohol?
In order not to completely lose a loved one, relatives and friends have the last chance - to force a person to give up alcohol. In this case, one should not ignore any method and neglect the means to return a stumbled person to the society. How to persuade to stop drinking? Should I be persuaded? Where to start? Maybe you need to force the treatment?
Undoubtedly, we must try to persuade, make people aware that the problem exists, help them realize and understand: the situation must be dealt with in some way. Reach into his mind, conjure up memories of how good he was when the alcohol hadn't gotten the better of him.
After realizing the problem, you must force the alcoholic to give up alcohol. This is an extremely difficult task, requiring incredible effort on the part of you and the patient. Awareness of the problem does not always prompt you to stop drinking. A person does not admit to the end that he cannot give up, he assures others that at this moment he simply does not want to give up. But as soon as you want, the vodka will be effortlessly forgotten. He sincerely believes that today he lacks real motivation, especially since tomorrow "Vasya's neighbor has a birthday", then Fisherman's Day, but after the New Year, starting at 8 in the morning, he will definitely resign. This can go on indefinitely. At the same time, if you try to insist, you can provoke a strong aggression.
What can make a drinker stop drinking?
There are some general rules to start persuading an alcoholic:
- talk about the problem only when you are sober;
- you are an important person for the patient;
- prepare hard evidence that you really became an alcoholic;
- justify your desire to help him recover from drunkenness;
- Prove that there are reliable treatment methods, cite mutual friends who got rid of addiction as an example;
- I promise to support him morally until the end.
It is often our fault that drinking becomes a disaster. We ourselves try to ignore the problem to the end. We are missing the moment when addiction began to dominate. Remember, when your loved one began to lose their sense of proportion more often when drinking alcohol, the next day we heard:
- "I always rest like this";
- "I have no problems, everything is in order";
- "I have it all under control";
- "was meant to be" and so on.
Whatever justifications can be named, promises "this is the last time", know that you already have a serious problem! This means that your husband, son, boyfriend has become dependent on alcohol, now it is difficult to convince a man to stop drinking. But leaving it as it is won't work, it will start to degrade before your eyes:
- he will not stop drinking, but, on the contrary, he will drink more and more frequently;
- will become more aggressive over time;
- you will lose control more often;
- gradually destroy your emotional and mental state.
Even in a sober state, the patient has the consequences of alcohol dependence: irritation, depression, isolation, tension. There is no need to indulge in wishful thinking: "perhaps it will get better on its own", "everything will change over time".
How can I get my husband to stop drinking?
It's time to act, but what will make a husband stop drinking? For this, all methods are good, we must try everything possible. Before applying various methods of combating alcohol addiction, it is necessary:
- get or increase motivation - must be strong. A person experiences an addiction that only strong motivation can overcome;
- to boost self-esteem, to remind him how fond he used to be, how much he was valued at work before he started drinking.
An interesting fact: if a man is loved, cherished, surrounded by care, it is almost impossible to meet an alcoholic in such families. A man takes his first steps towards a bottle dissatisfied with his life and his family relationships. It is difficult to help a lost person to find himself, but it is even more difficult for him to correct himself. If a wife wants to save her husband from her, she should stop making scandals, tantrums and crying, she should try to meet him calmly and kindly.
Ask yourself questions and answer them honestly:
- How can I change so that my husband stops drinking?
- What am I ready for to stop drinking?
Hard? Lasted? But there is no other way. Stop accusing him of all sins, drown him with homework, pinch, limit. For a period of time, remove from your consciousness the conviction that:
- must do;
- must be responsible;
- he is a man;
- he is forced to "drag the family";
- must, must, must. . .
There is already a sick person in front of you, you will help him to recover, and only then will you remind him of his duty. In the meantime, stop constantly blaming, don't focus on this problem, take care of yourself. And, perhaps, after that, his words about the pernition of alcohol will find an answer in his soul.
Understanding, patience, care - this is what should surround a person, and the result of his efforts will be a strong family and a person who has stopped drinking. Connect family and friends. Your father or mother may be able to convince an alcoholic to get treatment. Friends who are comfortable with alcohol can also help. The word of a friend often becomes a weighty argument to make an important decision.
How can I convince my son to stop drinking?
Stop drinking, being an alcoholic, the patient needs support. Isolate yourself from friends who drink, this is important for a successful fight against the green snake. Always support it, even if it fails and breaks. Let him try again to overcome the bad habit.
Do not keep alcoholic beverages in the house, leave the alcohol yourself. The explanation "I drink, but I know when to stop" is not adequate. You can force yourself to stop drinking if you set a positive example yourself.
Measures to gradually limit the amount of alcohol in life do not work, there is no "cultural drinking". The complete and definitive rejection of alcohol is the main condition for sobriety.
What to do with alcoholics who are struggling with the "green snake"? Support them in their efforts and attempts to break the habit. For example, when the father convinced him to stop drinking, and the son tries to refuse a glass, he vividly demonstrates positive emotions, approval. If the son stumbled again, he shows sadness, discontent. You must help the drunk to cope with his addiction.
Can a person stop drinking on their own?
We want to warn you: self-treatment of alcoholics is rarely effective. Sometimes, with the help of character and will, this is possible if alcohol dependence has not reached the physical stage. The basis for giving up addiction is the desire to save the family, get a job, status in society, another goal, the achievement of which will be a reward for the efforts made. To help yourself, you need to start practicing proper nutrition, jogging, weekly bathing procedures.
To combat alcoholism, folk and medical methods of treatment are widely used. Both options have pros and cons. They are often practiced when it is not possible to convince a drinking boyfriend, husband or son of the harmfulness of the habit.
There are pharmacological and popular preparations that cause an extreme aversion to alcohol. They are harmless, they do not cause addiction or rejection to the organism. They contain substances that are completely incompatible with alcohol. They are added to the drinker's food or drink.
After drinking beverages containing alcohol, they provoke an unpleasant reaction of the body: vomiting, nausea, dizziness, etc. Of the most common folk remedies are used:
- thyme decoction;
- lamb decoction;
- St. John's wort decoction.
In ancient times there was an interesting method of occult persuasion to stop drinking - the dung fungus. The fungus contains a substance that stops the conversion of ethyl alcohol to acetaldehyde. If you eat a mushroom, then drink alcohol, then a person will have symptoms of severe intoxication. Our grandmothers imperceptibly weaned their husbands from alcohol in this way. But in modern realities, it is better not to use this method, especially since medicine has come a long way.
Why is specialist help needed?
If an alcoholic cannot stop drinking, then not only occult folk methods can be used, but also medications. These are pharmacological formulations in the form of drops and tinctures. They are cheap. Drugs can be applied in secret, but success is not always possible.
If the disease has long and firmly taken root, the use of drops is not enough. Treatment of alcoholism in a hospital with the participation of doctors - a narcologist and a psychologist - is required. In especially severe cases of alcoholism, it is no longer possible to do without the help of qualified doctors.
There are 3 stages of chronic alcoholism. If the first two still give hope of getting rid of the disease on their own, then at the third stage alcoholics themselves will not stop drinking without the help of doctors.
There comes a time when problems are growing every day, it is necessary to make a decision about compulsory treatment. Such action is regulated by law No. 323-FZ. Determination in a narcological dispensary is carried out according to the conclusion of a psychiatrist.
It is better not to bring to such a state and help alcoholics up to this point. Take care of your loved one in advance and find your own method to convince the drinker to stop drinking. The specialized clinic, for its part, will do everything possible to return a healthy person to society. True professionals treat alcoholism at any stage and are ready to accompany you from the first consultation to full recovery.